Testimonies on Estrangement –
not HIStory but rather OURstory
(i.e. – we know why the caged bird sings. Tweet these truths folks)
Definition of ESTRANGE (Merriam-Webster online dictionary)
Estrange: transitive verb
1: to remove from customary environment or associations
2: to arouse especially mutual enmity or indifference in where there had formerly been love, affection, or friendliness : alienate
Some truths that came into my inbox yesterday.
“My mama did told me not to come for Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter + July 4, while her 2 deaf granddaughter (my deaf nieces) are around for many years because she said that she did not want them to learn how to use ASL from me, my Deaf husband + my deaf son. She said that ___________for the Deaf did told my brother about not to social with me +my family. So often my dad did begged me to come while I had to quietly + tolerably still love my mama.I feel so estranged aunt to my 2 Deaf nieces! I don’t want them to blame on their gramma (my mom). But my other hearing nephews + nieces did really helpful by their effort communicated and hugging me, my hubsband (their Deaf Uncle) + their cousin, my Deaf son!My other brothers and sister in laws had been telling me not to be stranger to them. I tried so hard my best for NOT making them blame on my mama!At my dad’s recent funeral, my mama was so cold to me but I tried my best to love her. Seeing my 2 deaf nieces were like stranger to me because I’m their stranger aunt. I feel so HURT for being “estrange” Aunt to my Deaf nieces for so many years!!! I will pray to help me to be patience by waiting and giving my mama more time to welcome me in her heart.Thank you so much for your moment to read my personal msg and also I know that I’m not the only one who feel stranger because there are few Deaf people who do not know their Deaf Uncles and Aunts. I hope that some Deaf babies, Deaf Uncles, Deaf Aunts and Deaf cousins will not be stranger to each other in the future. Hope to see you in Washington DC on between July 21 to 23.”
these truths. “Gratitude is thememory of the heart.”
Methods of Auditorization:
1. Segregation and isolation from signed languages and users of them.
2. Forced to focus on speech and hearing rather than solid language acquisition.
3. Curriculum reflects that of the dominant hearing culture.
4. Textbooks and testing reflect that of the dominant hearing culture.
5. Denial of the pupil’s natural learning abilities (visual and manual).
6. Teachers are role models for the hearing culture.
“I think Alexander Graham Bell’s greatest crime was keeping deaf people apart from each other. It wasn’t so much that he thought speech was important. Worse than that was that he didn’t want deaf people to marry each other. He didn’t want them to be near each other. He wanted them to be apart.”
Keep singing these songs of freedom folks. We do have independence THROUGH seeing/feeling and signing.
To AG Bell et al re: the jealous mistress of Oral / Aural ONLYism – we proclaim ¡Ya basta!
WE STAND FOR THE TRUTH
(note – just added now – AFA Rally at AG Bell Symposium – see above if u still don’t get it. Estrangement, linguistic and cultural oppression, oral / aural ONLYism is not cool, this is why we fight folks)