Testimonies on Estrangement – not HIStory – OURstory

Testimonies on Estrangement –

not HIStory but rather OURstory

(i.e. – we know why the caged bird sings.  Tweet these truths folks)

Definition of ESTRANGE (Merriam-Webster online dictionary)

Estrange: transitive verb

1: to remove from customary environment or associations

2: to arouse especially mutual enmity or indifference in where there had formerly been love, affection, or friendliness : alienate
(See De’VIA Susan Dupor’s famous “Family Dog” painting for a visual Deaf specific representation of estrangement)
AG Bell and Associates has been severing bonds between Deaf children, their parents, and professionals in their quest for “independence.”

Some truths that came into my inbox yesterday.

Exhibit A.
u might want to subscribe and watch several of the other vlogs he has re: his personal experience with “the Systems” that promote oral / aural ONLY
(note: if you can not read ASL and you need a summary of this vlog – let me know)
Ain’t it strange how Joey becomes estranged from his teacher who used to sign but was ordered not to and how he became a bit estranged from his parents for not fighting harder for what he needed?
Exhibit B.
A family, a funeral, and a falsehood
“My mama did told me not to come for  Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter + July 4, while her 2 deaf granddaughter (my deaf nieces) are around for many years because she said that she did not want them to learn how to use ASL from me, my Deaf husband + my deaf son. She said that ___________for the Deaf did told my brother about not to social with me +my family.  So often my dad did begged me to come while I had to quietly + tolerably still love my mama.
I feel so estranged aunt to my 2 Deaf nieces! I don’t want them to blame on their gramma (my mom). But my other hearing nephews + nieces did really helpful by their effort communicated and hugging me, my hubsband (their Deaf Uncle) + their cousin, my Deaf son!
My other brothers and sister in laws had been telling me not to be stranger to them. I tried so hard my best for NOT making them blame on my mama!
At my dad’s recent  funeral, my mama was so cold to me but I tried my best to love her. Seeing my 2 deaf nieces were like stranger to me because I’m their stranger aunt. I feel so HURT for being “estrange” Aunt to my Deaf nieces for so many years!!! I will pray to help me to be patience by waiting and giving my mama more time to welcome me in her heart.
Thank you so much for your moment to read my personal msg and also I know that I’m not the only one who feel stranger because there are few Deaf people who do not know their Deaf Uncles and Aunts.   I hope that some Deaf babies, Deaf Uncles, Deaf Aunts and Deaf cousins will not be stranger to each other in the future.   Hope to see you in Washington DC on between July 21 to 23.”
Patti here:
I want to express my deepest gratitude to these individuals for signing
these truths. “Gratitude is thememory of the heart.”
~ Jean Baptiste Masseiu
We STAND with you.
Some other REALities about the hands that bind and the bonds that break sung by Jeffrey Roberts
A Case Scenario” at the Terlinguan
From “Repetitions” at the Terlinguan
Methods of Auditorization:
1. Segregation and isolation from signed languages and users of them.
2. Forced to focus on speech and hearing rather than solid language acquisition.
3. Curriculum reflects that of the dominant hearing culture.
4. Textbooks and testing reflect that of the dominant hearing culture.
5. Denial of the pupil’s natural learning abilities (visual and manual).
6. Teachers are role models for the hearing culture.
From the documentary “Through Deaf Eyes”

“I think Alexander Graham Bell’s greatest crime was keeping deaf people apart from each other.  It wasn’t so much that he thought speech was important.  Worse than that was that he didn’t want deaf people to marry each other.  He didn’t want them to be near each other.  He wanted them to be apart.” 

Gina Oliva

detail of ASL "STAND" from painting by De'VIA artist Nancy Rourke

Keep singing these songs of freedom folks.  We do have independence THROUGH seeing/feeling and signing.

To AG Bell et al re: the jealous mistress of Oral / Aural ONLYism – we proclaim ¡Ya basta!


(note – just added now – AFA Rally at AG Bell Symposium  – see above if u still don’t get it.  Estrangement, linguistic and cultural oppression, oral / aural ONLYism is not cool,  this is why we fight folks)

peace,  \||,/


5 Comments (+add yours?)

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  2. DE
    Jul 12, 2011 @ 16:51:26

    Patti, you are a true hero. Thank you. All our ancestors are inspired by your actions for truth, justice, and liberty.

  3. handeyes
    Jul 12, 2011 @ 19:24:53

    thanks de

    it aint me – its we, da people….

    smiling on u too



  4. Joey Baer
    Jul 13, 2011 @ 05:49:34

    Your blog site’s value continue to rise daily! There are plenty of stories, evidences, and your powerful thoughts on how AGB has been destructive to many Deaf individuals. Thank YOU for doing this to bring the truth that all AGB cares is MONEY, nothing else! Thumbs up!

  5. Patti
    Jul 13, 2011 @ 13:40:00

    Heye Joey

    Yeah I think agbad’s origins were more paternalistic than materialistic but of late the evidence is pointing more in the direction of the bank as in bankin on the “hearing loss” industry and population to be their cash crop /cow and honey pot
    Their CEO Alexander Graham (real name folks but no relations they say) expertise and background is in competitive intelligence. Agbad has taken tons is thousands of dollars for the past several years from two cochlear implant companies who have been fined for wrong doings sooo it may indeed be that this is more about profit than people. I true then boo

    Re ourstories – pla help folks sign these songs of freedom. Pls get folks to make vlog or notes about the abuses they have suffered under Oralism. These stories must be told And become told

    Link or email me folks

    We making the invisible visible and they be shaking and a waking and making things up as they go. Just see the unwanted and inappropriate and unjust temporary membership cards agbad sent to staff at RSD and ISD and KSD … Mislabellng the auto members As “hearing specialists”. That is one mighty deceitful way to give the appeArance of
    – having more members than u do
    – working w Deaf schools
    – that the majority of your members r not ears and mouth professionals and business or dr surgeons audiologist speech and language specialists communication disorder specialists ci companies heating aid companies sales reps insurance reps manufacturers etc

    There a mighty money in this INDUSTRY of making the deaf “independent”. Hence the ears and mouth fetish and obsession

    Sign out ur songs folks

    We will be heard

    Oralism (oral / aural only) is not cool fools

    And for the twisters no I am NOT saying it is bad to be able to speak and a hear some I am saying the EXCLUSIONARY practice demand regime and the $$$$$$ and the deceit are wrong

    Can ya see me now?

    To our peeps sign it out loud “me Deaf & proud”

    Ps forgive the typos. Me iphoning it and um all thumbs

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