The Right to be… Deaf – whose choice is it? Part V
Is Parental Choice an illusion or delusion – or both?
NOPE? Oh dang. Lets try a different ball.
(“the professional” put hands behind back – shuffle shuffle)
NOPE again – Dang. Hmmm O.D.D. – lets try this remote controlled ball
(put hands behind back – shuffle shuffle)
NOPE again – imagine that . no worries – we have a few more professionals that will help you with the picking and explaining of why everything thus far has had less than rosey results for ur little Romero and/or Julia
(put hands behind back – shuffle shuffle. Never mind the fact that I have about a million hands and tentacles. Better to suck hold of you with dear e)
Choose carefully parents because we “respect” your right to choose. In fact it is paramount to us the professionals, the prenatal specialist, the technician, the audiologist, the speech & language pathologist, the surgeon, the cochlear implant insurance expert, the…..
We all have your and your little one’s best interest in mind as we aim to HELP you on your way to making the best choice for your babe.
What is that you ask? Ohh that small door there at the end of the hall. Well, we are glad you asked (not). That is the doorway into a sad and silent world (oh we cant say that anymore. Its not PC – ok scratch that – back up the tape). That is the doorway to ASL which is not really a language. It is bad English and hurts children’s neuro-placity by stealing all the attention (oh we cant say that anymore . its not PC – ok scratch that – back up the tape). That is the doorway to ASL which is a language in its own right with a COMPLETELY FOREIGN grammar that is used by a proud and exclusionary and clannish and angry group of DEAF people that are coming to your home to take your child from you unless of course you choose one of these doors marked – Oral / Aural only (oh, that is right – this door didn’t work for your baby), or this door marked – Cochlear implants & AVT (oh, that is right –this door didn’t work for your baby), or this door marked cued speech (oh, that is right – this door didn’t work for your baby), or this door marked simultaneous-communication (oh, that is right – this door didn’t work for your baby), or this door mainstreaming alone with an interpreter and notetaker / cart and an aide (oh, that is right – this door didn’t work for your baby…)
To which they say ..
Well that is just because you didn’t choose properly
You didn’t try hard enuf
You didn’t implant fast enuf (x 2)
You didn’t exclude exclusively enuf
You didn’t drive far enuf
You didn’t jump high enuf
So yes NOW we agree that since your child is a teen and can not hear nor speak goodly and can barely read or write (that aint right) you can choose that little wee door way at the end of the hall.
Thank heavens for options and parental choice, eh?
Psst parents – u have not failed. We have failed u – meaning the systems. The powers that be have utterly failed u because even for the “successes,” there is often a severing of bonds. There is the inability of your child – years into adulthood to be fully who they are when they are around you. Yes, you know this is true. Even for the ones that talk pretty and hear-a-plenty. They no come home so much. And if they muster up courage to learn how to sign on the sly much later in their lives, they still will cry when you say – d”on’t come home and sign around your siblings’ children because they might pick up on that hand babble too.”
We know that was what you were told to do but decades later, why are Deaf folks still being told what to do and not to do?
Really, mom and dad? Really?
That so ain’t cool. It so ain’t cool that your offspring, the apple of your eye can not talk to you without having to work for their words. That you can not have a moment of eye-eye, hand-hand speak. To be connected unaided or abated.
That you haven’t been given the option, the choice to say to your adult child. I love you “as if” you are perfect because you ARE perfect “as is.”
So all this Parental Choice is really bull crap o la cuz too many parents are still being told they should NOT sign with their Deaf child. Too many parents – still.
The Reader Family re: their Deaf son and “the professionals” and “Parental Choice”
Through the Eyes of a Deaf Child – Go to 9:10
(ADDED july 1)Dr. Larry Fleischer sharing his experiences with “the professionals” at an IEP meeting and how they had offered him everything EXCEPT…
https://handeyes.wordpress.com/2011/03/18/dr-l-fleischer-re-ieps-fixing-focus/ (text below if don’t know ASL)
Luke of Amazing Race express gratitude for his mom signing!!! Go to 1:06
(if someone finds the same clip that is fully cc – let me know the link)
And Check out:
Deaf Pundit’s Is it Really About Parental Choice
Don G.’s There is No True “Choice” in Parental Choice
Deaf Jeff’s Hey AG Bell, I want to go to college too
NOTE to all:
parental choice does not really exist and even if it did – it should not supersede the rights of the child. Think about bodily integrity folks. Think about consent. Think about fully informed choices. Think about the right to be Deaf and how it does NOT exist.
And when u r done thinking about it… maybe u can do something about it.
Is Parental Choice an illusion or delusion – or both?
Oh and did ya know that four INTERNATIONAL GROUPS have declared that sign language should NOT be denied in Deaf chidren’s education? See ICED 2010 New Era and Accord of the Future, World Health Organization, UN Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities, and the World Federation of the Deaf
GOT FEET? See ya at the AG Bell symposium of professionals July 21-23 in DC. and also let the governor of Indiana know that what he has proposed is NOT COOL (ie the appointing of oral / aural only supporters on a Deaf bilingual school board – duh!)
Centre Jules-Leger students you have done well